While rare, there have been times in my life when I can not find the words to say what it is I want to say. Today I type and the words come on the screen, but not in a way I am looking for. I highlight the text, hit delete and try again… and again… and a third time. But I still can’t find the words that go where I want to go. So this morning, please pardon the use of borrowed words to fill this space. Others wrote words akin to what I want to express and with thanks, I place them here.
From timemagazine.com “What is this thing called love? What? Is this thing called love? What is this thing called? Love”. However punctuated, Cole Porter’s simple question begs an answer. Love’s symptoms are familiar enough: the mad conceit that the entire universe has rolled itself up into the person of the beloved, a conviction that no one on earth has ever felt so torrentially about a fellow-creature before. Poets and songwriters would be in a fine mess without it. Plus, it makes the world go round.
Taken from http://www.love-sessions.com/whatislove.htm What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire. Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love between two individuals…. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured.
Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.
Basic Components of Love
What do you feel when you love someone? If distilled down to it’s core components, what would those be? Yes, love is an emotion, a feeling, a wanting, and a “being”. We know it feels good, but what specific feelings, wantings, and beings are present when we feel love? Here are the common denominators of love…
Love is Accepting.
Acceptance is labeling someone as “okay” and having no particular desire to change them. Who they are is perfectly fine with you. You pose no condition on whether you will love them or not. This is called unconditional love. When your love IS conditional, the moment they step outside your set of conditions, love wanes. Consequently, love is rarely a constant state but fluctuates based on our degree of acceptance.
Love is Appreciating.
Appreciation is one step beyond acceptance. It’s when your focus is on what you like about another. We look at them and feel this sweeping appreciation for who they are, their joy, their insights, their humor, their companionship, etc. When someone says they are “in love” with another, they mean their appreciation is so enormous for this person that it consumes their every thought.
Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want those we love to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Love expressed is when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something.”
There are many ways in which we give our attention to another. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen. Being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes, watching another, undivided attention. Tasting/smelling? (I’ll let you figure that one out). Touching, giving a hug, holding a hand, a caress, or sexual expression.
The words above were brought here and placed in this space to dance around the three words in my heart today. A simple trio of three words were spoken to me last night around 10pm on Friday, November 4, 2011 and without reservation or doubt I spoke “I love you” back to her. No words are sufficient to express my elation and gratitude this morning for something I had all but given up hope for. To know the depth of my joy you would have to go inside my heart where “the one” lives there now. And so it shall be.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way.