Good morning to:
The fifth grade teacher who never liked me;
You taught me how impossible it is to please everyone.
The supervisor who stepped aside to let me take blame for someone else,
You taught me knowing someone for years does not make them my friend.
The girlfriend from my junior year of high school;
You showed me how much peer pressure can influence what someone does.
The hospital I stayed at when I was eighteen years old;
You made it abundantly clear that I had to take care of myself.
The company that laid me off months after I moved hundreds of miles;
You taught me that trust was something to not hand out easily.
The driver of the florist delivery van that hit my car;
You taught me to work past pain and to forgive someone who hurt me.
The worker who stole jewelry from my bedroom;
You taught me things don’t matter much no matter how attached to them I am.
The woman I loved who divorced me;
You taught me I did not have to be with someone to love them.
The man I thought was a friend who lied and dishonored me;
You taught me to value true and real friends all the more.
The company who cheated me out of two months pay after I resigned;
You taught me to always get important things written down.
The bank who repossessed my car when I was nineteen;
You taught me the important of being responsible paying my bills.
The science teacher who got the dates wrong for the regional science fair;
You taught me ultimately I am solely responsible for myself.
The job that was so big I could find little satisfaction in it;
You taught me the size and scale of work I am best at.
The airlines that canceled my flights;
You each taught me life goes on whether I am present or not.
The woman I loved who never loved me back;
You taught me no matter what I do some people will never love me.
The my trusted ‘right hand’ manager who violated my trust and got me fired;
You taught me the value of loyal people who are trustworthy.
To all the ones who hurt me, disappointed me, violated my trust, stole from me, broke my heart, took advantage of my innocence, intentionally lied and cheated…
I thank you all. Each and every time pain was initially all present, but with months and years the lesson of the hurt came into focus. It is difficulty that has been my most prolific teacher. Only those people who deserved no place in my life could have taught me to truly recognize the ones who are worthy. I am grateful to all learned the hard way and the players on the stage of each example.
What looks like garbage from one angle
might be art from another.
Maybe it did take a crisis to get to know yourself;
maybe you needed to get whacked hard by life
before you understood what you wanted out of it.
From “Handle With Care” by Jodi Picoult